DIVAGALS TAKEOVER! Could You Date Someone With Zero Fashion And Grooming Sense? Here’s How To Tell… And Fix It!By The DivaGals | July 20, 2017 | Lifestyle, Relationships
OK Divas, we all we want a man who looks like Idris Elba, but most guys don’t come in ready-made that package, lol. Most men could use a little assistance in the appearance department. So we’re wondering, would a man not being so great in style and grooming make you think twice about accepting a date with him?
Of course, what we should say is: “Of course not! I would be interested in him as a person, and would never look at such superficial exterior features and make a decision based on that!” That’s all well and good and very much the correct answer, but Divas, let’s be serious – we want our man to have some flair!
It’s probably fair to assume that if you meet someone who blows you away, then you’re not going to care much about their position in the fashion and grooming department. Love blossoms in the strangest places for the strangest reasons; if you like someone enough, then you’ll probably find them attractive. Chemistry shouldn’t be overlooked either; those butterflies in your stomach and the desire to just be near them… it’s enough to make you skip over any superficial reservations you might have.
But here’s the problem, the above requires one thing above all others — being able to get to know a person. It’s impossible to meet someone at a bar and try and figure out if they have the key to your soul or not when you’re wondering if their clothes were passed down to them from 1992.to make snap decisions about how somehow looks as much as how well we’re getting on with them. It’s pretty much impossible not to make a judgment based on all those things that shouldn’t matter. I mean, you have to evaluate what’s in front of you.
If upon first glancing at a man, all you can think about is directing him to Hairy Questions You’ve Never Asked: The Complete Manscaping Guide… well, that’s probably not a good sign. You’re definitely finding yourself focused on the wrong thing.
If your instincts then double down on that suspicion and you start thinking they should also take a glance over the Top 10 Habits Of Stylish Men just to give him a helping hand… is that really something you’re going to be able to look past?
Probably not, and that doesn’t make you a bad person. You’ve got very little raw data to go off, and if there is something about his appearance – bearing in mind you only have his appearance to judge from – that you don’t like, then it’s not a good sign.
The question changes when it pertains to men you somehow have a chance to get to know before considering them as a romantic partner.
Let’s say there’s someone from your work who you get on well with. You’re always talking, and there’s a definite spark between the two of you. If he asks you out, then there’s really nothing to hold you back – provided you’re both single, of course.
If at that point a voice in your head interjects and pleads: “but his style…” then – let’s be frank about this, you might have a problem. This is someone you like, have developed a (albeit for the moment, platonic) relationship with, and if this is the one reason you don’t want to take things further… well, it might be time for a chat with yourself.
Not necessarily just because it’s important to be a wonderful person and be open to all the possibilities, but because of one simple fact: Style Is Changeable.
If you have ever been tempted to step away from a potential date because you can’t stand his hair, his clothes look terrible and his facial hair is in need of a trim, then you’re forgetting something vital. Those things can be fixed. With any luck, he will be extremely receptive to the idea that you want to help him iron out the kinks when it comes to his personal style. It might even be something that bonds you together.
Dismissing someone without at least considering the possibility that perhaps they are just in need of a helping hand is a tad judgmental. If someone appeals to you on other levels and this is the only fly in the ointment, then you might just be able to get yourself a good swatter. Once he’s committed to you, you can always help turn him into the fly soul he’s meant to be.
Looking for a little inspiration? We got you covered!
GROOMING. Make sure he’s stocked up on Shea Moisture for Men. The line offers everything from beard grooming to 4-in-1 All-Over Wash, which we scored at The Lynk Up: NYFW Men’s Grooming Lounge & Style Soirée, during Men’s Fashion Week in New York City. Your man will smell good from head to toe!
FASHION. StyledbySayre is one of our fave Instagram stars with killa wardrobe sense. Maybe press follow on your potential boyfriend’s phone?
Every guy looks oh-so-stylish suited with a bow tie or pocket square. Suit him up with a colorfully printed one by SLJohnsonbows.com. And you can always direct him to the Cladwell app, which actually helps your man plan perfectly stylish outfits.
So should bad grooming put you off a potential BF? No – for the reasons mentioned above, and because you probably wouldn’t like it if your grooming was the only reason for someone not to want to date you. These things work both ways.
However, if you do find yourself shying away from someone, then there might be another reason for it. Your brain might be using it as an excuse, telling you this man isn’t a good fit for you on a deeper level. It’s always worth listening to your instinct when it comes to dating, and if this really feels like a mountain you can’t overcome, then there might be a reason for it.