Find A Husband in 90 Days Round 2 – Tip #1 On Finding The One IRL – Recruit Your Own Matchmakers!By Delaina Dixon | September 13, 2018 | Relationships
Hello Divas! I’m back and recharged in my search to find a husband in 90 days, round 2! I had a little setback last week when I saw an ex of mine on the subway and we didn’t speak, which was tough. But like a trooper, I’m pushing through to find the love of my life.
This week, I turn to one of the top experts in love, relationship expert Fran Greene (LCSWR) for advice on meeting my potential soul mate IRL. Yes, it’s not all about being online. There are still opportunities to meet someone special out there in the real world. Fran, who’s authored great advice books like Dating Again with Courage and Confidence, The Flirting Bible and her newest book The Secret Rules of Flirting – says they key to finding love offline is being out and active!
“When you take part in activities you love, meeting people comes naturally,” Fran declares. “The more you do things you enjoy, the more comfortable you are with yourself. That will make it easier not only to meet someone but to actually connect with someone who enjoys doing the things you do as well.”
Fran has several tips on what you should do to connect with people in real life. I’ll be putting them into motion over the next 90 days, and taking you along for the ride!
TIP #1. Recruit Your Own Matchmakers. Back in the day, people were introduced to one another by relatives and family friends. Fran says to reach out to everyone – old college roommates, neighbors, your sister’s friends, and ask them to fix you up with an eligible mate!
“Send each of them an email asking to be your matchmaker,” Fran declares. “Don’t be shy – friends and family will be honored that you asked. Tell them that they are a person you love, value and trust, and you’re not asking for money! Explain you’ve signed up for a 90-day dating challenge and you are open to going on date with whomever they suggest. If it works out, fabulous — if not, that’s ok too.” Fran suggests sending it to five people. I sent it to 10!
The first thing I noticed that people were happy to get the email. There was a lot of “I’ll get back to you,” and I haven’t heard from them yet. But I’d like to think they are taking their time to find me the perfect man!
One dedicated friend did come through. She told me that she knew a guy who loves to dance. Since I teach fitness classes, it could be a good match. She gave him my number. He called. The conversation was pleasant enough and we made plans for dinner.
Upon arriving, I quickly noted that he wasn’t my physical type. I tried to put that behind me. Another piece of advice Fran gives is being open to someone who isn’t your imagined ideal. With hope the conversation would flow in a way that made me want to know more about him, I soldiered on.
Unfortunately, that was not the case. If I hadn’t kept the questions flowing, there would have been more awkward pauses. Of, course, as life often works – he was interested in pursuing things further. Since that wasn’t going to be the case, I was open and honest and said I was getting a friendship vibe more than anything else.
But I shouldn’t be discouraged because of that. He could be a great friend, resource or perfect for another woman! What I do realize is that I need to refresh my own conversation skills as well to make sure I’m creating an atmosphere to allow the other person to share more of himself.
Tune in next week for Tip #2: Meeting Mates In Unexpected Places!
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