Hola, DivaGals, it’s #HowToThursday! Okay, so you’ve got past those first few awkward dates, but what now? New relationships come with all sorts of worries, from having the dreaded “What are we?” talk, to uttering those three little words, “I love you.” With new relationships, there’s a lot of potentially dangerous ground to navigate.
Getting through those first few months of a new relationship can be hard, but if you make it, they are more than worth it. It might be scary being with someone new, but if he turns out to be Mr. Right, you’ll be so pleased that you stuck it through.
To help you navigate through those first months with a new partner, here are a few life-saving tips:
Don’t stress about labels. You might be spending most of your time with the new fella in your life, but you may still be unsure of what the two of you are. Are you just friends? Probably not if you’re holding hands and making out! Maybe you’re friends with benefits. Or maybe, just maybe you’re more than that. Knowing what to label your new relationship — if that’s what it is — can be hard. That’s why it’s best not to stress about what you and your new crush are. It’s not like naming your relationship will improve it, so try not to overthink things. Don’t worry about what to introduce him to your friends as, just call him by his name. If in doubt, “This is Jorge,” is the perfect introduction.
Only say those three little words when you mean them. Whether he surprises you with a declaration of his love, or you feel that it’s been long enough, only tell him that you love him if you really do. Telling someone that you love them when you aren’t 100 percent sure about your feelings is a recipe for disaster. There is no need to rush things. If he says that he loves you, but you don’t know yet, just smile and thank him. Yes, it might be a little awkward, but it’s better than saying something meaningful just because you feel like you should.
If you are unsure about your feelings, take a look at vixendaily.com. Hopefully, this will help you to clarify how you feel, so that you can honestly tell him where he stands.
Have boundaries. When your relationship is new and exciting, it’s only natural that you want to spend all of your time together. However, when it comes to new relationships, it’s best to take things slowly. You both have your own lives, friends and hobbies; don’t forget about them. With new relationships, it’s far too easy to get sucked into being together 24 hours a day, but that’s not healthy. If you spend too much time together too soon, you will end up getting bored with each other quickly. Still do the things you enjoyed with friends and family before you were together. As the relationship grows, you’ll organically figure out which ones you should share with your love, and which ones should stay a part of just your world.
New relationships are a lot of fun. But they can also be incredibly stressful, especially when you don’t know where things are going. If you follow the tips above, navigating your way through your new relationship with as little stress and worry as possible will be just a little easier.
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