It may be down to the relationships we’re exposed to when we’re little or an innate love of Disney movies, but most of us grow up with intentions to find our perfect partner. They say there’s somebody out there for everyone, but some people tend to be a lot luckier in love than others. If you’re on the hunt for “the one,” here are some signs to help you tell the difference between Mr. Right and Mr. Right Now.
You can be yourself. When you first start dating somebody, you may feel awkward, and you might think that you have to put a lot of effort into what you wear, what you do and where you go. The key to long-term happiness is finding somebody who makes you feel comfortable and relaxed. It’s nice to dress up for a hot date months into your relationship, but if you’re still worrying about your partner seeing you without makeup or you feel like you have to fill every moment of silence with conversation, this is a sign that this man probably isn’t the perfect match for you. When you’re with somebody, and you don’t even have to think about what you look like or what you’re saying, this makes for a healthy relationship. You should always be wary of relationships where you feel like you to have be somebody that you’re not or you worry that you’re putting on an act.
You have things in common. At the beginning of a relationship, we often prioritize the physical aspect, and we can get carried away thinking that the guy who gives us butterflies is the dream man we’ve been waiting for. It’s really important to have a physical connection, but don’t let this cloud your judgment. When the honeymoon period wears off, have you got things in common? Can you chat for hours about nothing in particular? Are you able to have moments of silence that don’t feel awkward? Do you share interests? Do you want the same things in life? If there’s common ground, you’ll find each other interesting and engaging long after those first date butterflies have fluttered away.
You can see a future together. You don’t necessarily have to be dreaming of a 3-carat diamond ring after the first few dates, but it’s always positive if you can see a future together. Sometimes, you know after a couple of meetings that this person isn’t the one for you. Likewise, there may be that connection, and it may become clear, as times goes by, that actually, this is a person you want to spend a lot more time with and get to know better. Go with your gut, see how things go, and be open to spending more time together. You don’t need to rush things or start planning a wedding after a couple of months, but sometimes, you just know that relationships are going to last.
Most of us want to find true love. Sometimes, it can strike when you least expect it, but in other cases, it can be much more elusive. If you haven’t found the one yet, don’t despair. Trust your instincts, and don’t settle for the wrong person just because it feels like it’s taking too long to find the right one.