Confused about men? The DivaGals welcome our newest contributor PK Lassiter — a real life dude — who gives you advice about how to navigate the opposite sex. His first Dating Advice column? 4 Guys You Should Never Date.
IΓÇÖve been asked by the DivaGals to write articles that help demystify men, which I know a little about since I’m one of them. My first piece is about the four types of guys you should never date. ┬áAnd since I also fall into one of those categories, I agreed to do it.
Am I speculating? ┬áSure. ┬áIs my opinion fallible? ┬á100 percent. ┬áBut my sister, aunt, and a few of my female friends have dated guys like the following and each have avowed to me personally, passionatelyΓÇª Never again. So here goes: The 4 guys you should never date.
1. ┬áThe Gambler
This is the guy, and I am not talking about just the casino here, that is always in search of action. ┬áHeΓÇÖs willing to risk most everything because the rush (or as Tom Sizemore says in Heat, ΓÇ£IΓÇÖm in. ┬áFor meΓÇª The action┬áIS the juiceΓÇªΓÇ¥) is what heΓÇÖs after. ┬áThe opening of the relationship will be loaded with spontaneous fun. ┬áBut after a while ΓÇö the thrill is gone ΓÇö and he will be too.
2. ┬áThe Pushover (thatΓÇÖs me)
This is the guy that always seems to say the right thing, do the right thing, and be the right guy. ┬áHeΓÇÖs happy, courteous, and willing to do anything that you like (whether youΓÇÖre in or out of the room, or relationship). ┬áHeΓÇÖs the guy that you will start to resent after about 3 dates. ┬áI know, thatΓÇÖs usually my limit.
3. ┬áThe Actor
I recently spent some time in Los Angeles, where it seems every semi-intelligent creature: man, woman, dog and cat, are trying to be professional performers. ┬áThe actor is a tough one. ┬áWhile he will (hopefully) be creative and imaginative, he will most likely be broke. ┬áAnd this career choice seems to come with a large helping of rejection ΓÇö which absolutely saps the ego (or inflates it exponentially). ┬áSo what you end up with is a broke, self-doubting (or overcompensating) ΓÇ£artistΓÇ¥ who always wants to run lines. ┬áAs they say in the industryΓÇª ItΓÇÖs gonna be a pass.
4. ┬áThe Next Door Neighbor
When I lived in Roanoke I absolutely fell in love with my next door neighbor Amanda. ┬áShe was a hairdresser (cut my hair for free!). ┬áShe had a great sense of humor. ┬áAnd she liked me. ┬áUntil we couldnΓÇÖt get away from one another. ┬áEven when we wanted our alone time, we would see each other in the halls, the laundry room, the elevator, the roof yes, the roof). ┬áWe were either going to move in together, or never speak again. ┬áIt was the latter.
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