Booty calls, friends with benefits, one-night stands and other modern relationships. Whatever you decide to call it, there are rules for that night of unbridled passion that you chose to engage in last night. Here etiquette expert, our Image Gal Samantha, shares top tips for handling your booty business with class.
Get The Facts. Before you engage in extra-close contact, especially with a man you’ve just met, make sure you know his full name, address and phone number. I suggest checking that the number works before running off into the night with your mysterious stranger. Let a friend know where you’ll be and make sure to check in with her the morning after to let her know you are okay.
Be A Proper Hostess. Just because you’re knocking boots doesn’t mean manners fly out the window. Protocol dictates that the person hosting at his or her apartment or hotel room is responsible for being gracious and attentive. This means that it is your responsibility to make sure that the being you are being intimate with is hydrated and/or fed when in your presence. If you are the guest, make sure you clean up after any little messes you’ve made before you exit.
Let Him Be Chivalrous. I still expect men to open doors, pick up tabs and give their arm when walking you down the street. Your man of the evening is responsible for making sure you get home safely, whether he escorts you there himself or offers the cab fare necessary for your travels.
Bag It Up. Use a condom. Safe is polite!
Have A Morning-After Kit. It’s 6 a.m. as you open your eyes. Your head hurts as you look around at the strange surroundings. You start to remember where you are, and what you did the night before. You are ready to clean up, literally. For times like these, having a small plastic bag filled with essentials: a mini toothbrush and toothpaste, baby wipes, gum, aspirin and a clean pair of underwear stashed in your purse can make the walk of “shame” a lot more bearable. FYI: If you made the decision to hook up, you shouldn’t feel ashamed about it, and if you do, you may need to rethink whether this type of encounter is the right one for you.
Communication Is Key. Honesty with one another brings down the margin for people to be hurt during such an encounter. Make sure you have discussed your boundaries on what you will and will not do in the boudoir. Understand his intentions clearly; this may be a one-shot deal, and if you are not ready for that, it’s best to pass. Be kind, open and honest as it will help keep you human and make the experience, whatever it is, better for the both of you.
Samantha von Sperling is a social image consultant who is dedicated to bringing out and enhancing a person’s best features. Learn more about living a “Polished” life at her website, www.socialimage.net.
photo credit: Paramount Pictures
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