How did I score an invitation to the book launch for He’s Just Not Your Type (And That’s A Good Thing), a new relationship guide from dating expert Andrea Syrtash? One of my best guy friends, who’s heard one too many stories about my dating adventures, sent me the info.
I can take a hint. That’s why I found myself at Butter, a trendy restaurant in Manhattan’s Lower East Side, sipping Merlot, eating delish Alley O cookies and getting tips on how I could find love with a man who may not be the one I outlined on my dream man list.
Of course, I wanted to share all the lessons learned that night with you. That’s why I sat down with Andrea for all the deets and whipped up my findings for my pals at BettyConfidential.com.
You can read it here.
Good luck in finding the man who may not have been the one of your dreams, but is your love of a lifetime!
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I'm just getting my associates, and supplement my income with my welder, and my wife and I will be celebrating our 33rd anniversary.
Men respect quality in a woman, and as a man, he will stand for, by, behind, beside, carry,cheer for and all the etc's that you can think of.
I'm not the coolest guy on the block, but when it comes to marriage I am the last man standing.
I'm not bragging, for my wife could tell me that I have not been and am not the man of her dreams, but she will have to do it from her throne she is on in my life/mind.
My smile grew as I read the article, because it sounds like the transformation I went through a few years ago.
I used to have my "must haves" checklist.. not only did I throw it out, but I stepped *beyond* my comfort zone.. and have been been happy ever since!
My social life has been far more successful. The men dated (since the transformation) never would have met the "qualifications" on the 'must haves' from back in the day. I currently have a boyfriend, we've been together for 16 months, and living together for the past 4-5 months.
I wish you the best on your book.. I wholeheartedly recommend all girls/women toss the proverbial checklist that society tells us to make.. Remember:
There is no set path. Follow your heart. - Unknown.
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Wow! Ive tried it at least 3 times and its Horribly disapointing. I try to be open and listen, and find something, anything that could be interesting. and that usually works.
But I'm not sure if its the dating gods or if inevitably we are simply tied to who we are, our beliefs and expectations ...and that's on both sides where things fall short.
I think its great to try and be open. But i also think it wears it self thin and flat and I would not consider it a easy or fun or even a best practice.
I've been having a blast and it came with real surprises. I'm over 50 and I seem to attract men that are 10-25 years younger. That was an unexpected surprise. I'm definitely not a "cougar", because they're doing the chasing, but many of these men want to have a serious relationship.
For me, there has never been a color, race, religion, culture, education, type of job, or language barrier, so its funny how the younger-men-thing amazed me (I speak 3 languages fluently and can get by in 2 or 3 others).
When I'm ready to settle down again, I don't think there will be a problem. Right now, I'm just enjoying myself and my life.
This ladyfriend suddenly needed space and abruptly ended the relationship with no discussion of the reasoning behind her decision. She said that I wasn't what she was ideally hoping for in a guy for the big picture...that I will be perfect for someone else. I still do not know what this deal breaker was and seceretly wish this book "HeΓÇÖs Just Not Your Type (And ThatΓÇÖs A Good Thing")would fall into her lap!
I'll stand down but I wish I knew her deal-breakers and must-haves before it was too late! (Or is it?)