He's Not Your Type Book Launch

By   |   May 5, 2010   |   Entertainment

ANDREA SYRTASHHow did I score an invitation to the book launch for He’s Just Not Your Type (And That’s A Good Thing), a new relationship guide from dating expert Andrea Syrtash? One of my best guy friends, who’s heard one too many stories about my dating adventures, sent me the info.

I can take a hint. That’s why I found myself at Butter, a trendy restaurant in Manhattan’s Lower East Side, sipping Merlot, eating delish Alley O cookies and getting tips on how I could find love with a man who may not be the one I outlined on my dream man list.

Of course, I wanted to share all the lessons learned that night with you. That’s why I sat down with Andrea for all the deets and whipped up my findings for my pals at BettyConfidential.com.

You can read it here.

Good luck in finding the man who may not have been the one of your dreams, but is your love of a lifetime!

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  1. Alvin Sample
    Saturday, May 8th, 2010
    I heard a female say on a national TV show once that she could not relate to a "janitor". I thought, "what an idot"! If she really went for values, then when was the last time SHE went to church for something other than a wedding or funeral? When was the last time she called her Dad for something other than a holiday? If she does not have a Father figure/daughter relationship, then how can she truly relate to an intimate male figure?
    I'm just getting my associates, and supplement my income with my welder, and my wife and I will be celebrating our 33rd anniversary.
    Men respect quality in a woman, and as a man, he will stand for, by, behind, beside, carry,cheer for and all the etc's that you can think of.
    I'm not the coolest guy on the block, but when it comes to marriage I am the last man standing.
    I'm not bragging, for my wife could tell me that I have not been and am not the man of her dreams, but she will have to do it from her throne she is on in my life/mind.
  2. Sunday, May 9th, 2010
    Hi..I met my boyfriend on a personals site but it wasn't love at first message. I did not answer him immediately because he did not match my list. I dated younger men for years but the relationship would always end in less than three months so my girlfriends convinced me to try online dating. At first, he was attractive but the body wasn't what i was accustomed to even though the body type was. He was tall and thin but he had a beer belly and he was older. I decided (secretly) that we could be friends, but he kept showing up with surprises. Flowers tucked behind his back, corny cards, etc...needless to say, I fell head over heels in love with him and more than one year later we are still together and I am so pleased with him. We have sooo much in common. I can't, no I don't want to , think of my life without him again.
  3. Lori
    Sunday, May 9th, 2010
    I married my "not my type." It turned out that he was a cheater. I am engaged to another "not my type" and I am Happier than the first time. I went against my idea of what he should look like and what he was before his father told him he had the right to other women. The man i am with know is not christian and very hairy. but his smile lights my world.
  4. Monica
    Sunday, May 9th, 2010
    I read an article (link below) about your book.. the title of the article alone had me smiling.

    My smile grew as I read the article, because it sounds like the transformation I went through a few years ago.

    I used to have my "must haves" checklist.. not only did I throw it out, but I stepped *beyond* my comfort zone.. and have been been happy ever since!

    My social life has been far more successful. The men dated (since the transformation) never would have met the "qualifications" on the 'must haves' from back in the day. I currently have a boyfriend, we've been together for 16 months, and living together for the past 4-5 months.

    I wish you the best on your book.. I wholeheartedly recommend all girls/women toss the proverbial checklist that society tells us to make.. Remember:

    There is no set path. Follow your heart. - Unknown.

  5. Sunday, May 9th, 2010
    Dating against type-

    Wow! Ive tried it at least 3 times and its Horribly disapointing. I try to be open and listen, and find something, anything that could be interesting. and that usually works.

    But I'm not sure if its the dating gods or if inevitably we are simply tied to who we are, our beliefs and expectations ...and that's on both sides where things fall short.

    I think its great to try and be open. But i also think it wears it self thin and flat and I would not consider it a easy or fun or even a best practice.
  6. Peaceful1
    Sunday, May 9th, 2010
    I liked the article and it reminded me of why I made changes. I always dated "pretty boys" and also married one. When we divorced after a long marriage, I decided to date outside my comfort zone.

    I've been having a blast and it came with real surprises. I'm over 50 and I seem to attract men that are 10-25 years younger. That was an unexpected surprise. I'm definitely not a "cougar", because they're doing the chasing, but many of these men want to have a serious relationship.

    For me, there has never been a color, race, religion, culture, education, type of job, or language barrier, so its funny how the younger-men-thing amazed me (I speak 3 languages fluently and can get by in 2 or 3 others).

    When I'm ready to settle down again, I don't think there will be a problem. Right now, I'm just enjoying myself and my life.
  7. Sunday, May 9th, 2010
    What about if you use to date a guy who you madly in love with and he cheated on you due to to much pressure and stress in the relationship ans since your break he dated another girl and you had a baby with another guy and it didnt work.but now your ex who cheated on you wants you back along with helping you with a baby who is not his.what should i do should i give him another chance or just tell him to keep moving.I mean things are hard because I am still in love with him but i dont know if i can get over the past hurt.
  8. David
    Sunday, May 9th, 2010
    I have been on personals sites for several years and finally met a truly wonderful lady. Although we were opposite politically (I held my tongue and really was happy to not drill my views into her head), religiously (I moved to the edge of tolerance of my rather strict upbringing to see if the final goal would be worth gaining her long-term favor and she HATED one of my two favorite types of music, we hit it off on the first date and was near bliss for two months. We never even raised our voices to each other and I treated her like the queen that I know she was (IS!). I fixed things and would do anything she needed or wanted.
    This ladyfriend suddenly needed space and abruptly ended the relationship with no discussion of the reasoning behind her decision. She said that I wasn't what she was ideally hoping for in a guy for the big picture...that I will be perfect for someone else. I still do not know what this deal breaker was and seceretly wish this book "HeΓÇÖs Just Not Your Type (And ThatΓÇÖs A Good Thing")would fall into her lap!
    I'll stand down but I wish I knew her deal-breakers and must-haves before it was too late! (Or is it?)
  9. Luisa
    Monday, May 10th, 2010
    My story was highly unusual. My type was intelligent and funny. I never cared about looks because I always wanted someone who stimulated my mind. I happen to be pretty good looking myself so I often attracted the cute cocky guy that's just dying to break your heart and I was always turned off to that attitude. I just always assumed that if a guy was good looking he was an idiot (horrible misconception on my part). Well, I met this cute cocky guy at my work orientation and he was relentless with asking me out. He WAS funny, and he happened to be surprisingly intelligent but I talked myself out of it because even though he had my 2 DO's, he also I had my RED Flags. After his asking me out wouldn't stop I finally and begrudgingly said yes on the condition he was not to ever ask again. I went on a Sunday night to a bar to have 1 drink (talk about set up to fail) and I had one of the best conversations in my life. What I set up to be the most horrible 1st date ever ended up in a first kiss that would be 1 of many. We're married for 5 years now with two kids and I couldn't be happier. To think I tried to sabotage this type of happiness with my ignorance.
  10. Rachael
    Monday, May 10th, 2010
    I agree. My wonderful boyfriend and I have been together for over a year and there is not a doubt in my mind He is the one I want to be with, and he says the same thing. I was raised in a very religious home, Where the men I date should be of that religion. I used to tell myself I would never date anyone who has tattoos, is more than 5 years older than me, has children, is divorced. this list goes on. the love of my life has a quarter sleeve tattoo, has an 11 year old daughter, and is divorced. Everything i said I would never want in a guy he has, yet he is more than I could have ever imagined. He is the most wonderful guy ever. I love him so much
  11. Tiffany
    Monday, May 10th, 2010
    Hi my name is Tiffany. And here is my story. I'm only 24 and I have finally met my Mr. Right. He is totally not the type of guy that I would ever see me dating. I was always into the Street Thugs and the Bad Boys. Well I met my Fiance 1 year ago and we will now be getting married in 1 year. He is not the type of guy you would ever see me with. He is only 6 foot tall and thats short compare to the guys I was attracted. He doesnt have a 6 pack. He comes from a non baptist family and everything that i would rule out on a guy but he is just so different. I'm the happiest that I have ever been in my life. He is the good guy and I'm the bad girl. I love him to death and he is totally not what I would date but the one that I would marry. I love him sooooo much.
  12. Renee
    Monday, May 10th, 2010
    Well - I've dated "against type" for almost a year now. The positives are that it has opened my eyes to see that there are several available men out there and I can actually have fun with a lot of different men (older, divorced, with children) in different ways - i.e. reading groups, hiking, cooking. Even better, it has confirmed which of my "must haves" are truly "must haves." I've always wanted someone with a great sense of humor and dating outside that box has proven that I need that. I also tried dating across religions, but for me, it doesn't work. He'll have to practice the same faith.
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