How To Sex Up A Relationship With Shades Of Grey-Inspired Tips From 90 Days to Husband No. 2’s Samantha Bessudo Drucker!

By Samantha Bessudo Drucker | March 12, 2021 | Relationships

Image Gal and 90 Days to Husband No. 2 author Samantha Bessudo Drucker gives some helpful hints on getting kinky.

You’ve watched 50 Shades of Grey and still can’t get it off your mind. Sometimes when you watch something there’s a disclaimer, “Don’t try this at home!” But in this case, we say give in to your desires! Here’s how to sex up a relationship with a handy list of things that by all means you should try with your partner. Agree on some safe words and swing from the chandelier a little!

Watch Porn Together. It is a great way to explore ideas and see what turns you and the other person on. It is also a great conversation starter if just the thought of expressing your fantasies makes you blush.

Tie One On. Neckties are very versatile; they can function as a blindfold, wrist restraints, leashes or gags. Play, explore and take turns.

Get In The Dark. Try blindfolding both of you and just make out with kissing and feeling. When one sense is taken away the other senses heighten. Not being able to see what your partner is doing also builds anticipation.

Plan a Play Date. Take a trip together to an adult entertainment store like Babeland. See what’s interesting to you and have a nervous giggle while a straight-faced sales associate explains how it works.

Role Play! This is loads of fun. You can explore some fantasies or even bring new excitement to mundane things. Maybe you have a “honey-do list” — you know, things around your place that needs hammering and screwing. Have your man come in with worn jeans and a tool belt. he works up a sweat and takes his shirt off, you offer lemonade… fill in what happens next!

Take It Public. Go out to a bar with your partner and pretend to be other people. Pick each other up and have a one-night stand with your man (make sure that part happens in the privacy of your home or a hotel room). I’m pretty sure he’ll ask you out again!

Make It A Production. Costumes always help actors into their characters. The same applies to a little production value around your kink. Costumes, lighting, music, scent, drinks, food and the rooms you choose from the kitchen, office and living room to the bedroom all help set the stage for your play. Have fun with it.

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Get Frozen. Playing with ice cubes can be a fun summer sport.

Make ‘Em Laugh. Holding someone down while you tickle them can be lots of fun. Try tying up hands and feet and then tickling your partner.

Write A Bucket List. Make a “sexual” bucket list of things you would like to try then share your lists with each other. Add in fantasies to discover what makes your partner gasp, breath quicken, flinch, laugh and moan. And then start crossing off your list!

Take Turns And Compromise. Part of good exploration requires all the members involved to have some satisfaction. Agree on what you’re willing to try and explore, and reciprocate.

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