Is Your Partner Cheating? Here Are The Telltale SignsBy The DivaGals | November 29, 2019 | Relationships
It’s sad irony that technology makes it easier to cheat on your partner. Technology also makes it easier for your partner to catch you cheating. If you are suspicious that your spouse might be cheating, there are numerous ways to go about gathering proof. First, what has aroused your suspicion? Here are some of the signs that your partner may be cheating on you:
- They suddenly become cold and distant. They may lose interest in having an intimate relationship with you.
- Their routine changes. They suddenly spend more time at work, or on hobbies outside the home.
- They become secretive. Your partner suddenly keeps their phone locked, hidden, or you discover that they have a second phone.
- They take a new and unusual interest in their appearance. Your partner is suddenly spending more money and effort on their appearance, yet seem disinterested in you.
- They start keeping their money separate or taking out larger amounts of cash; this should be a red flag that something is going on.
One or more of these signs have you suspicious that your partner is cheating. Now, how do you go about proving their infidelity?
- Go through bank and credit card statements. Is there an expensive dinner charged the same night your spouse claimed they had to work late? Is there a hotel charge for a town nearby, when they said they had to travel for business? These are pretty tell-tale indicators.
- Go through their phones or laptop. If they leave either of these unlocked, check to see if they are logged into social media accounts. Check for text and messages from unusual sources.
- Track their phones. If they have left location sharing on, on you can turn it on without them noticing, you can see where they go.
- There are many types of spyware that you can use to track their online activities. There is an ethical debate about spying in this manner, but the technology is there.
Not all affairs are physical, at least not at first. It is becoming increasingly common for partners to engage in emotional affairs. This type of relationship may start as an innocent flirtation but quickly evolves into a deeper connection. Emotional affairs can sometimes be more devastating to a relationship than a physical one nightstand. Emotional affairs take the energy, emotions, and investment they should be making in your relationship and places it somewhere else.
Emotional affairs are also becoming more common because of how easy it is to connect via social media. Seemingly harmless relationships like online gaming friends have turned into emotional affairs. The following are signs that your partner may be having an emotional affair:
- Your instincts are telling you there is something off about their relationship with this person. If you have been in the relationship for some time, your instincts are probably right.
- Your partner seems emotionally withdrawn from you. If you are finding it harder to connect on an emotional level, this could be because your partner is connecting to someone else.
- Your physical relationship changes. If your partner is having an emotional affair, they may withdraw from you physically.
- If you bring up the person you are concerned about, they immediately become defensive. They maintain they are just friends. They shut you out completely, or refuse to discuss this particular friendship.
- They become obsessive about their phone. If your partner has always left their phone in plain sight, and suddenly take it with them everywhere, this can be a sign. They may even become angry or defensive if you pick up the phone. Even if the phone is locked, odds are they are concerned about notifications that show on the lock screen.
- You find out they have shared details about your relationship with this other person. There is not a good reason that your partner should be discussing your relationship with another person.
If you suspect your partner is having an emotional or physical affair, you need to discuss the matter. You may want to wait until you have proof. The discussion will likely stall if they can deny the relationship. Once you have proof or your partner admits to the affair, you have to decide what to do next.