Why Is Your Boyfriend So Secretive? The Top Reasons Why!
By The DivaGals | June 4, 2015 | RelationshipsHey Divas! Being in love is one of the best feelings in the world. Even the most dreadful of days can seem irrelevant compared to how you feel about your boyfriend┬áand nothing bad that happens matters because, at the end of the day, you’ve got him as your partner through thick and thin.
ThatΓÇÖs the dream, and thankfully the reality for many who are boo’d up. But what if it’s not so picture perfect? That can be the case if your boyfriend is always so secretive!
Is your boyfriend always acting like heΓÇÖs hiding something? Is he cheating on you with another woman? Well, thatΓÇÖs one possibility. But the thing is there could be many legitimate reasons why he seems to be creepin’.┬á Check these on for size.
He thinks you donΓÇÖt approve of his friends. ItΓÇÖs no secret that some men have friends their girlfriends donΓÇÖt like. There is no rule, unwritten or otherwise, that says everyone must share and enjoy being in the company of each otherΓÇÖs friends! If you hate some of your manΓÇÖs buddies, he might not want to give them up because of that fact. Instead, he might come up with excuses to spend time with them – without you present.
Relationship expert Fran Greene, author of Dating Again with Courage and Confidence says:┬á“the more you try to control your boyfriend by telling him who he can and cannot be friends with- the more he will want to be with his best buds that you have no use for!┬á Try your hardest to be nonjudgmental and matter of fact when he tells you he is hanging out with his friends. ┬áBy being nonchalant, your boyfriend may even spend less time with his friends because he will not feel the need to assert his manliness and independence.”
He doesn’t trust you 100 percent (yet). If you are in a new relationship with someone, they might just need time to fully trust you. Especially if your boyfriend┬áwas hurt a lot by people close to him in the past. In some cases, trust issues can turn into a big problem in relationships. Has your partner admitted he still needs time to ΓÇ£get to know you better?” If so, donΓÇÖt get surprised if he keeps certain elements of his life secret from you at the moment.
Relationship expert Fran Greene
He’s afraid youΓÇÖll get mad at him for flirting with other women. There are all kinds of people in this world. The guy you choose to call your boyfriend might be the flirty type
Relationship expert Fran Greene, author of The Flirting Bible
He IS cheating on you. When your boyfriend is secretive, the obvious conclusion to draw from your gut feeling is that he probably is cheating on you. In some cases, those feelings can become facts. If you suspect he’s cheating, you’ll need some more solid evidence before you can go and accuse him of doing the dirty on you. But if all signs point to so, confront him (somewhere safe) and then get out. After all, being in a relationship
Dating Again with Courage and Confidence
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I hope I never find myself in this painful situation again. I know the signs now. If it's "top secret" he's not there for me.
He does not trust me and it is a COMPLETE waste of time and emotional energy. Stay away. If he is that secretive, do not share ANYTHING with him. He will take and take and not share. Send him packing.