90 DAYS TO HUSBAND No. 2! Part II – When Dates Go BAD!

By Samantha von Sperling | October 15, 2015 | Relationships

It’s #HowToThursday, and our resident “sexpert” Samantha von Sperling is determined to find husband no. 2! With the help of JFiix, the new dating app geared to young Jewish professionals, her search is on! Read on for her adventures in the first two weeks!

I’m on a mission to find my Mr. Wed! Week One was filled with a lot of chatting. I went to meet one of my first suitors, a businessman in New York City. He and his dog were both beautiful specimens, always a plus.

But there was zero conversation between us. We just didn’t have enough in common to sustain meaningful conversation. And believe me, when looks fade, meaningful conversation is a very important thing to have!

To make matters worse, he just wanted to kiss me, like that was going to make up for no communication skills! I was bored out of my mind in five minutes. I made an excuse to flee and ran home, hoping the next date at least had something to say.

The following week was a little slow with the High Holidays. Truthfully, I felt a little demoralized after my boring date last week, but we must always get back on the horse. Dating discipline is like going to the gym: we have to exercise every day if we want to see our body’s sculpt and develop.

Finding husband no. 2 should be no different! We know what we want, and each day we have to spend at least a moment on our quest to make progress. If we are not chatting on line, getting dressed, going out and putting ourselves out there, how will Prince Charming ever find us?

But, there are always roadblocks (hello, chocolate cake!). A guy I was chatting with and thought was really great informed me he was going to pursue someone else.

The moral of Week Two? Be patient, take a breath and come up for air when you need to. Be patient and persistent, and don’t give up! Any person that is worthy of being a life partner to you is worth a little time and effort to find and make sure he is The One!

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